When we speak of Valentine’s Day it’s mostly related to romantic love.  Readers assume that because I write about relationships that involve romance, I must be some sort of expert in the field. They think Valentine’s Day is a day meant for flowers, chocolates and wild passionate lovemaking .

I’d like to suggest we start a new trend when it comes to talking about love and Valentine’s Day.  Instead of romance and seeking out that perfect someone who will love us the way we deserve, I think we need to start loving ourselves–not in a narcissistic sort of way but it a healthy, fun way.  For in loving ourselves we are able to love others.  Loving others becomes a reflection of how deeply we care about ourselves. 

A single friend once told me she wished to remarry.  She made a list of everything she was looking for in a husband and then worked on those very qualities in her own life.  She became the  woman that would attract the man she wanted.   So today on this Valentine’s Day I’d like to declare it as “love yourself day” and just for fun, enjoy a really wonderful, decadent piece of chocolate.